In The Home

The home isn't often equipped to teach what no academic setting ever can: genuine regulation through mutual respect. Love isn’t proven through perfection, performance, self-sacrifice, avoidance, or dysregulation, but through attunement—through the allowance and acceptance of emotions, through repair, respect, boundaries, and consistency. Home should be where children learn what true safety feels like—and how to return to it.

I examine how early models of conflict, communication, affection, repair, avoidance, and regulation imprint themselves onto the nervous system. These reflections also explore what happens when homes are inconsistent, chaotic, or emotionally unsafe—and how those patterns follow us into adulthood until they’re understood, named, and unraveled.